Boundaries

It seems to me that I’m hearing an awful lot about boundary busters here lately. A boundary is a dividing line, the proverbial line in the sand, sometimes unspoken and invisible, but nevertheless firm and real. Boundaries are necessary. Boundaries in relationships are absolutely essential. I think boundaries are a sign of respect, respect for…

The Little House Conundrum

Five decades ago I was a small child who would grow to love the books that Laura Ingalls Wilder wrote and greatly enjoy the writings of Mark Twain. I admired them. I daydreamed about having similar experiences. I dreamed of writing similar books. Four decades ago, when I was a teen I was your typical…

Dangers of Criticism

Lots on my heart this morning and I’ve been contemplating how very easy it is to make judgement calls on other lives while sitting and doing nothing ourselves. Here is what I mean. HUSH. Please just hush. Do not be so bold as to express your opinion on matters that you have no first hand…

The Day it Rained Tears

This morning I was the opening cashier at our local Winn-Dixie grocery store. This little part-time job has been a great experience for many reasons, one of which is my interaction with total strangers, unique individuals, almost always ready to share a bit of their day with me. It’s been like that all of my…

Patience with Impatience

Are you ever impatient? I’ve been known to be mighty impatient at times; impatient with myself, impatient with others, mighty impatient. Part of it has to do with my intense personality. Part of it has to do with my extraordinarily busy schedule. But, the greater part is a matter of heart and attitude. This morning…

ABCs of Adoption – Part 8

November is National Adoption Awareness Month and I’m still blogging about the ABCs of Adoption. Today I’d like to share a bit about our oldest adopted child, Josiah. I’ve often said that he would be the perfect poster child for older-child adoption. He joined our family when he was eight years old and he has…

ABCs of Adoption – Part 7

November is National Adoption Awareness Month and I’m the mother of seven adopted children, five of whom are presently teens. So, let’s talk about adopted teens. Surely that can’t be as simple as ABC. You’re so right. They test you and rebel against boundaries and are stubborn and have emotional outbursts sometimes…just like any other…

ABCs of Adoption- Part 5

Relationships are so very complicated. People can have personality clashes, old wounds that haven’t healed, memories that haunt or resentment and unforgiveness. And then sometimes people just don’t care or won’t even try.  On the other hand relationships are so basically simple. People who are willing to tolerate differences, who have forgiven, grown, healed. People…

ABCs of Adoption – part 2

Continuing my ABCs of Adoption in honor of November being National Adoption Month! Celebrate with me.  Today is the day we go the Dream Center downtown and minister to those who are there for food and fellowship. It’s always a blessing, but today was even more so.  One of our sons, Jeremiah, has a birthday…

Entanglements 

This morning I have been doing a lot of thinking and my thoughts have led to the entanglements of life. For the most part, those entanglements involve people. People don’t come in the easy-care, wrinkle-free, stain-resistant department. People are difficult. Whether young or old, they require maintenance and time and energy and effort. I’ll tell…