Did you automatically finish the saying that accompanies my title? I have heard it all my life and said it myself more than a few times.
Two steps forward, three steps back.
Some days, some weeks, maybe even some entire seasons of our lives feel exactly like that. You finally identify what needs doing and you pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get at it. Then, out of no where, there’s a set back just when you were beginning to make some progress. It feels like sabotage!
I mean we work and work for weeks to lose a few pounds and one weekend of indiscretion results in finding them again with a bonus pound or two. We struggle to get out of debt and pay off credit cards when the car breaks down or a major appliance breathes it’s last breath and the debt grows. We are diligent to build healthy boundaries with those difficult people in our lives when they start boundary busting
and things seem worse than ever. We step out in faith and risk it all when it all backfires and we find ourselves wondering why we even tried and if we ever should again.
You’ve got a decision to make. You can stay where you are, let things be, stop trying to improve or change or grow. Or, you can press on in spite of set backs, wipe away your tears of disappointment and decide the risk of being disappointed again is worth it.
How do you decide? How do you know when it is time to cut your losses? How do you know when enough is enough? How indeed?
First of all, don’t make a decision until your pain has diminished enough to think clearly. Emotions are real and necessary but, they aren’t good decision makers. Second of all, consider the possibilities of success and compare them to the possibilities of what could be and consider the cost.
Before you decide if you can continue and keep trying, you’ve got to decide if it is worth it and how important it is to you. If it is, if being healthy again or debt free or in right relationship is truly that important to you, then you know what you’ve got to do.
When you feel like you’ve been sabotaged and you’re losing ground, remind yourself of this truth. You have a source of strength outside yourself when it seems like yours has been depleted. You have a source of joy available when all you feel like doing is weeping in despair. You have a Father, a Savior, a Helper that is there right beside you. You are not alone.
The LORD directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. (Psalms 37:23 NLT)