When it comes to a child’s chances of being adopted, certain factors are considered. Things that shouldn’t matter, do matter to many people. It seems that when people start considering adoption they feel they can do what a birth parent can’t do, look for guarantees. Certain stipulations are considered and decided upon.
Adoptability is determined by age, ethnicity, special needs and being a part of a sibling group. We have adopted older children; usually that term applies to children over three years of age. We have adopted sibling groups. We have adopted children with what some would consider special needs. We have adopted children of a different ethnicity than our own. There are special challenges with each of these special situations. There are also special rewards when you overcome these challenges.
Can it work? Can you really build a family, bond properly and have a functioning parent/child relationship with a child that comes into your life after those extremely important formative first years. Yes, absolutely yes! A resounding yes!
It isn’t easy. Matters of the heart are NEVER easy. When you choose to love, you are making yourself vulnerable and putting yourself at risk. That is the truth whether you are adopting, birthing a child, marrying or committing to any serious relationship. A successful relationship takes a lot of hard work, sometimes requires intervention, grows as hurdles are overcome and will never, when scrutinized, be considered perfect. It will however be considered a great pleasure.
“God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.” (Ephesians 1:5 NLT)
If we were to be graded to determine our adaptability, we would come up short, be considered a high risk, counted as a great challenge. I’m so glad that God was willing to take a chance on me when loving me was risky.